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Image may be subject to copyright. P lan your life and plan to love The love you feel for each other is just the beginning. It gets better every day,Designer Wedding Dress, And here is how! Forget those people who tell you how your love and passion will take a back seat to the so called realities of life. What do they know! Just because “everybody” says the same thing doesn’t make it true either. Remember not too long ago “everyone” believed if you sailed too far west you would fall off the edge of the world. Ignorance is ignorance no matter where it comes from. You have the ability to have increased love in your marriage and it ain’t hard! The first thing you need to do is not do anything dumb (any more). Fights are no longer acceptable forms of communication. If you feel the urge to be rude go stand in front of the mirror first and take the aggression and anger out of your system by forcing a smile on your face (it is your face and it must do as it is told). Say to your image “you are so awesome and beautiful,wholesale evening dresses, nothing can make you angry. If you get angry you won’t look beautiful anymore and you will feel like a dope later. Have a drink of water and remember how amazing your lover is.” Next,wedding dresses, replace the destructive notions with powerful ideas of praise for your spouse. Crowd out the “rat” thoughts that are nibbling on your happiness with loyal thoughts of praise and admiration. Recall the qualities that won you over in the first place and don’t even allow thoughts like “nobody is perfect” in your mind. It is your mind and you can make it think and feel any way you wish. Plan to say something to your spouse that will make them feel special every day. Plan to understand more about your spouse every single day (don’t be a pest – be subtle). Praise your spouse every single day – can be for the same thing as yesterday Tell your spouse “I love you” as often as possible Hold hands even when you don’t feel like it Always respond affectionately to affection The one you married is your ideal spouse and co-parent. Appreciation is always appreciated and expectations always lead to disappointment. You will have the best marriage that ever was. You will be a newlywed forever.
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Image may be subject to copyright. I f you talk to any couple who has been married over 20 years and gets along, the chances are they never went to see a marriage counselor. On the other hand if you talk to a couple that had just gotten a divorce chances are very good they had tried marriage counseling. I personally know of one couple who went to a marriage counselor and were successful. They went in the eighties and are still married and happy together. However, the marriage counselor they went to see was anything but orthodox. His approach was spiritual and not traditional western psychology. My own experience as a mediator was western marriage counselors have a few things going against them. The biggest problem they have is they are not taught that man is a triune being. They believe man is limited to physical and psychological parts. They don’t recognize man is essentially spiritual. They also don’t recognize marriage is essentially a spiritual union and therefore spiritual laws are the most important for individuals to know. I once asked two questions of a highly regarded (not by me) psychologist in San Diego. I asked her if she believed in God to which she replied, “God is an abstract thought.” The second question I asked her was if she believed in the law of karma (exemplified in the Judeo Christian doctrine as, “What you sow, so shall you reap”). She said,Quinceanera Dress Party Gown Evening Dress, “Yes, it begins when you are five or six years old.” These two responses fly in the face of the spiritual reality that we are souls who have bodies and minds, and as souls we have been ‘somewhere’ before we were born, and we go somewhere after we die. In other words western psychologists only recognize the span of our life as reality. Because of this containment the concept of infinity has no place in our individual life. It’s the concept of an infinite soul that dictates a spiritual meaning to life. It’s the concept of infinity that gives love its deepest meaning. If there is no infinity all of our understandings of love become meaningless because our personal experience of love has no boundary. Is our experience of love a delusion? Is love something that actually comes and goes? Or is love the only reality that appears elusive because of psychological confusion? Here are 5 questions you can ask yourself to test your own experience: Am I happier when I give love or when I receive it? Am I able to manufacture love or does it originate someplace else? Can I trace my feelings of love back to their source? Do I prefer feelings of love over other feelings? Have I ever experienced a stronger feeling than love? Love is proof of spirituality. It cannot be seen, heard or examined in a test tube. Yet we know no greater experience than that of love. Love has no boundaries other than those we impose upon it. When we affix our mind to love instead of what is fair we feel indescribable joy, the very nature of love,cheap wedding dresses, the very nature of god. We are meant to love our spouse with reckless abandon. If you learn how to do so you will have the happiest marriage in the world. Don’t forget to tell your best friend, the person you want to love with all of your heart, “I love you.”
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Image may be subject to copyright. W e don’t ask enough questions of ourselves. Although it is true ladies like to ‘challenge’ themselves, which is different than asking questions, it doesn’t help to change behavior. It is not unusual for a lady to say something like, “Now why did I do that,” when they think they have done something incorrectly. The emphasis in that kind of question is more of a self admonishment and doesn’t do much good. The idea is to learn from our mistakes, not beat ourselves up every time we make one. Until we train ourselves to be good students of ourselves we are effectively mean to ourselves. So I want to give you a list of intimate questions to ask yourself in your marriage with the intention of having a constant reminder of a better way to create a harmonious marital relationship. Put these questions in a place where you can see them until you’ve trained your mind to automatically respond affirmatively to them. Do my actions express love to him? Do I treat him like the finest man in the world? Do I praise him to others? Do I smile at him just because I love him? Do I remind our children how blessed they are to have him as their father? I know some of you will cry when you read these questions because you will realize how far you have come from when you stood on the altar and said, “I do.” It is never too late to rekindle the great love that is in your heart and direct it to the most important person in your life. When we don’t give our love in abundance, when we hold back because of some petty hurt or sense of unfairness, we are depriving ourselves of the greatest experience marriage can bring us. Instead of feeling like you are not getting enough out of your marriage, and thus turning yourself into a victim, do something about it. Turn your attention towards loving thoughts, speech and action. Ask yourself the kind of questions that inspire you to become a better person, a better parent,cocktail dresses on sale, and most importantly the best spouse who ever lived. When your mind tells you, “It’s not fair,evening dresses,” tell your mind to behave. Give yourself credit for the good things that you do,cheap cocktail dresses, which far outweigh the little mistakes that you make. Remember that your marriage is like a container: the more sweetener you put into it, the sweeter your marriage will be. The first chance you get, tell your spouse from the bottom of your heart, “I love you.”
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